The Types Of Relatives You May Meet During CNY (2/3)

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The Types Of Relatives You May Meet During CNY (2/3)


We hope you had fun guessing this week’s featured relatives. If you missed last week’s installment, you can catch up here 

Now, the moment has come. How many did you correctly guess this time?

Read on to find out!

The ‘I, Me, Mine and My Feelings’ Relative

This relative loves to talk about feelings. They always seem to know exactly how to phrase the feeling that you cannot quite describe in your heat, and usually they are spot on.

However, when you ask them, “How have you been? How have you been feeling lately?” They don’t give replies; they give you long stories about the rollercoaster of emotions they have been feeling lately.

As you try to talk about your own feelings, they will always hijack what you are saying and reference it back, “Yes! Yes! I totally understand how you feel! I absolutely feel the same way! You know, lately, my feelings have been all over the place. Let me tell you another story that happened to me …” The focus then turns back to them and they do it so skilfully that by the time you realize it, you are already knee-deep into their life story and how they feel.

This will be the Type 4 relative in action. To those who guessed this, good on you!

The ‘Super Quiet’ Relative

This relative can be found at the corner of the room. On the surface, they don’t seem to be doing anything but in fact they may be in deep thought. Somehow, you get a sense that they are in their own private world. They are so quiet that sometimes, people forget that they are there at all.

They are the relatives that give you one word answers when you ask them how they are doing. Whenever someone speaks to them, they will still cordially engage but their faces are not the most animated and their low intensity make you feel like they are not interested in what you are saying at all. So, unless you hit on a topic that interests them, they will be happy to exchange pleasantries with you and then withdraw back into their own world again.

If you guessed this to be your very private and quiet Type 5 relative, you would be spot on!

The ‘Anything Also Can But Not That One’ Relative

Whenever you ask this relative what they would like to eat, the reply would often be “Anything” and then when you come back with what YOU think they want, they will look at you and then say, “Oh not that one, I have eaten a lot of that lately”. So, not wanting to get it wrong the second time, you ask again, “So what would you actually like me to get you?” The reply? “Anything”.

This relative does have their own preferences but somehow, they have difficulty in expressing what they want and so will engage with the endless conversational cycle of “What would you like?” and “Anything also can but not that one”. This relative often leaves you wishing they would just tell you what they want, instead of letting you play a cat and mouse game when it comes to meeting their preferences.

Did you manage to figure out that this would be your Type 9 relative? If you did, you really do know your stuff!

Two articles down, one more to go next week!

We hope you have been having fun guessing the Types. Look out for our third and final set of the Types of relatives you may meet during CNY coming at you on Friday, Saturday, Sunday!

Have a good week of CNY preparations!


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Cindy Leong
Cindy Leong
Cindy Leong is a sought after bilingual (English and Mandarin) Enneagram Personality Coach and Corporate Trainer in Asia, who can help you make sense of your professional and personal relationships. She is a member of International Coach Federation (ICF) and Singapore Psychological Society (SPS). Besides a Bachelor Degree in Psychology (majoring in Communications), she also has a Diploma in Business and has done in-depth research and studies in the areas of Organisational Behaviour and Gender Communications, both in Singapore and Taiwan. Through her expertise in corporate executive coaching, personal development, and relationship coaching, she has helped many professionals in their walk through challenging times, particularly in the areas of identity searching, relationship building and career breakthrough. Aside from being a published author of 2 books, she has also been invited by several radio stations and magazines as an expert guest speaker to provide insights into Enneagram, workplace conflicts and relationships.
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