Up to this point, we have explored how the heart-centered Types – Type 2s, Type 3s and the Type 4s deal with sadness.

And last week we looked at how the head centered Type 5  cope with sadness. This week, we turn our attention to the Type 6s.

 

Type 6s when dealing with sadness

The Type 6s deal with their sadness through projection. This is when they disown their feelings of sadness by projecting it, often, to another person. Essentially, how this works for a Type 6 is when they perceive somebody else feeling sad but in actual fact, the 6 projected their sadness on to the person in order for them to cope with the anxiety that accompanies that uncomfortable feeling of sadness.

As 6s use projection as a defence against sadness, this often causes them to be paranoid and suspicious in nature because if they keep on dislocating their inner feelings and placing them on other people, then they unconsciously create reasons to mistrust another person’s intention when they ask the 6s if they are okay or if they are feeling sad.

 

What to say to a Type 6 dealing with sadness

  • “I know you may be skeptical that I am here to support you but let me show you that I am truly here to help you process your sadness by allowing me to sit with you”
  • “There is no other agenda for me to be sitting here with you, other than being here to help you through this sad time by answering any clarifying questions you may have.”
  • “If you allow me to show you that I am committed to sitting with you through the congruency of my actions and words, and that I can be your trustworthy ally in this moment of sadness.”

 

An Encouragement to our Type 6s

We understand that you see the world as a dangerous place and you may doubt the intentions of others, but assess us through our actions and words to see if we mean what we say and that we are congruent and committed in being your ally in your moments of sadness.

 

For anyone with a Type 6 in your life, please always ensure that you are congruent in your communication and actions with them. Be consistent in your communication with them as well and slowly you will win their trust.

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