Solve any workplace challenge easily by understanding personality types
As a relationship coach for the better half of a decade, I have had the opportunity to talk to both individuals and teams from different corporations to learn about the challenges they face. From being unhappy with their jobs, to being unable to deal with that one colleague or integrate with their team, the list of gripes about the office is long and varied.
However, delving deeper into each difficulty, it is clear that the common factor underlying all these issues is one thing – the inability to understand personality types. Here are three common workplace challenges that can be merely solved by an awareness of your own and other personality types.
1. Going to work gets me down. But I have no choice but to face the daily grind.
When looking for a job, we look at what seems like a good choice according to salaries or stability. However, your personality actually plays a part in your job search. I was a panelist in the recent 2017 edition of “Get R.E.A.L” Conference. The three other experts in the panel agreed with me that personality is important in getting the right fit.
While a job in banking and finance might seem lucrative and glamourous, your personality type may actually find that torture, and would need a more creative role for a fulfilling career. Even for companies that are hiring, ensuring congruence in the personality you are hiring and the demands of the role is essential for a happy and productive team.
2. I can’t stand that colleague
In school, we are taught more about how to produce actual work outputs, but not on how to deal with the people we have to work with to do so. Even as we work more, there still always seems to be that colleague that we cannot stand. Ever think that the problem is with you? You are only affected because your expectations are being let down. The key to happiness with your co-workers in the work place is expectation management.
In a lunchtime talk at Farrer Park Hospital, participants found it fascinating that the quirks and habits of some of their difficult co-workers could actually be explained by their personality type. For the colleague that is always late, it is probably because his personality type thinks they can do more in less time. How about the colleague that seems to skive through life? He is just less ambitious or less meticulous. Your disdain at his work ethic only gets you angry, and does not motivate him to be better.
3. I can’t get my boss or colleagues to like me no matter how hard I try.
Have you had that scary boss or intimidating colleague where small talk seemed as difficult as drawing water from a rock? It can be frustrating that you cannot break through to them after years of working together. But here is a deceptively simple secret to effectively manage relationships – relationship building is all about mastering your own personality first.
Only when you have figured yourself out, can you try to understand why what you are doing does not work with other people. You will also be able to slowly see how what makes a different personality tick, and use that to build meaningful relationships. Success begins with awareness and understanding for effective and targeted efforts, as opposed to shooting in the dark.
Workplace conflict and issues boils down to differences in personality types. A happier work life begins with an awareness of who you are, what you expect, and how that fits in with that of your colleagues.