In a world where social chat apps such as Whatsapp are the norm, have you realised that some people actually read the ‘tone’ of the message, others just don’t appreciate longwinded texts while some just want to cram in their whole story for the day in one long text. So, even in the world of short messaging services (SMS), there are some ways that each Enneagram Type may want to be communicated in.

In this new series, let us explore how we can message each Enneagram Type in a way that clearly conveys your message across without causing them grief.

Today, let’s focus on the Types 1s, 2s and 3s.

Messaging the Type 1s

Type 1s focus on ‘what is right’ and what is right is to message them in the proper way. What would be the improper way to do it? Here is what not to do:

  • using short formed words such as ‘Hi’ or slang like ‘Yo’ because this is not the right way to address another person;
  • using incorrect grammar and punctuation because a text message should still follow proper language rules;
  • avoid using vague wordings in your messages. Try to be as precise as possible, instead of saying ‘I am on the way’, say ‘I am still on the train and I am two stops away.”

So, typically, a Whatsapp message to a Type 1 would look like this:

Messaging the Type 2s

The Type 2s’ focus is on the other person and usually they read according to the tone that is conveyed in your words. Here are some things that you may want to avoid:

  • phrases that are too formal such as “It has been brought to my attention” or “I hope you are doing well” as it carries a negative tone to the Type 2 and makes them wonder what they have done to offend you;
  • asking them how they are because that will guarantee a one word answer from them

So, a Whatsapp message to a Type 2 would look like this:

Messaging the Type 3s

Type 3s focus on messages that are efficient and to the point because they do not want to waste precious time harping on one topic for minutes on end. Here are some things you may want to avoid while messaging them:

  • using a lot of adjectives such as “awesome” and “fantastic” without contextual substance may come across as too fluffy without any concrete follow-ups;
  • taking too long to get to the main objective of your message which may frustrate the direct and efficient Type 3;
  • not going straight the point and providing explanations on your thinking processes.

So, a Whatsapp message to a Type 3 would look like this:

I hope that you are clearer about how the above Types would like to be communicated to over Whatsapp. I would like to leave you with this: everyone would like to be communicated to in the way that validates and respects their innate preferences.

So, in the world of mobile messaging, do not forget to take the time to get to know how your friends want to be communicated to and to convey how you would like to be communicated over Whatsapp as well.

————-

Communicating your needs is as important as having effective communication with the people in your life. Learn more by attending our Enneagram Level 1! Contact us to find out more and how you can use your SkillsFuture Credits to offset the course fees!